Let me re-introduce you to Fee. Fee was my first Guest Tea Towel in July 2017. She is a regular reader of my Tea Towel Blog; she is a good friend who I have known since October 1993; 100 years ago she would have been a Suffragette, today she is involved in women’s issues of all kinds; Fee is the person I would trust with my darkest secrets and who can be relied on to make me laugh at all times; Fee has interesting eating habits and who enjoys a meal out. Fee is not someone I would have said had any interest in tea towels so I was very excited when she offered to write about her newest acquisition; her collection is gradually increasing!
”I’m a swearer; I like swearing and swearing likes me. It’s just a very natural part of my self-expression. Obviously, it wasn’t always (I tended to be a well-behaved and rule-bound child, sadly). But since my early twenties, swearing has become more and more a marker of ‘me’. I have a wide range of friends and many swear quite frequently, and happily, but it is rare for me to find another in my circle who swears quite as often as I do. Although I do sometimes have a behavioural effect on others, and there are at least two work colleagues, in my current job, who report a real liberation in hearing me put a voice to their usually unvoiced thoughts and give them scope to explore their full linguistic abilities. My ‘Secret Santa’ present at work this year was a book called “How To Swear” so clearly I have the implicit support of the team to continue in my creative endeavours.
I’m not, however, a completely indiscriminate swearer. There is nothing worse than the awkwardness of a swear out of place, or context. I’m very carefully tuned into the language of those around me and will often test the waters with a light and breezy swear word and feel how it lands. Often I am rewarded with an immediate swear response and then I know that I am in a safe space and can continue and take a few more risks with my lexicon. Sometimes I tackle the issue head-on by asking a new group whether anyone objects to swearing and, with little exception, most people in the group are breathing a sigh of relief that the issue has been raised, and resolved.
There are, of course, those who genuinely find swearing offensive, and a verbal assault that is painful to hear. These people are easy to spot instantly and then, of course, swearing will be off the menu in their company. Then there are others whose relationship with swearing is slightly more complicated. They tend not to swear at all, or only on the very light end of the scale and they do a good line in mock horror when they hear me playing merrily at the other end. However, these people (and I have to know them well to know this) secretly love my big-stakes swearing, would love to feel more comfortable with an ‘F’ rather than a ‘B’, and gain vicarious pleasure from the fact that I so clearly, and loudly, do.
Barbara falls into this second category. She does indeed swear, right across the spectrum at times, but is happier paddling in the shallows, and watching others diving into the deep end. She also love a tea towel and a good play on words so this tea towel, that I was given at Christmas, is bloody perfect for her.”
PS: My Mum gave it to me – wtf?
Thank you, Fee, for that great article. I do, however, find it difficult to imagine you as a ‘rule-bound’ child. Unlike any email you have previously sent me, this article actually has punctuation!! It’s also a great tea towel!!
I am thoroughly enjoying your blog! My Mother was from England so I get it honestly the love I have for tea towels. I cannot give an exact count on how many I have but I know there are 2 dresser drawers full! Some belonged to my mother others I have collected through the years, most of them are from the UK and are printed linen. Then I have all the ones that are in use to dry dishes with everyday! Linen tea towels wear like iron, I have used many of them until they are thread bare, raggedy on the hems and the printed design are barely visible, that is when they get used as rags for cleaning windows and odd jobs. This is where the adage: “Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without!”
They are wonderful pieces of memorabilia, commemorating special events in history or just colorful linens to make housework more enjoyable! I just received a lovely one for Christmas from my cousin in England it is a calendar towel from Highgrove. I have it hanging in my kitchen. Oh yes and they make lovely wall decor!!
Wow. How about you send me a picture of the Highgrove tea towel and tell a bit about where it came from or a photo of one of your older ones and you could become a Guest Tea Towel in the Virtual Tea Towel Museum. Look forward to hearing from you. Barbara